Clinical Reference Systems: Pediatric Advisor 10.0
Sexual Behaviors: Setting Limits
Sexual behaviors are normal, even in very young children.
Many children touch themselves, show their privates to
others, play doctor, or ask questions about sex. For
children to have healthy sexual development, you should let
your children know that they can ask you about their bodies.
If you feel that your child's sexual behavior is
inappropriate (for example, touching himself in public),
then some limits should be set on that behavior. Many
parents worry that setting such limits will cause the child
to be ashamed or to have hangups about sex. However, like
other things, children need guidelines about healthy
touching and sexual behaviors.
Here are four simple rules you can teach your child to help
him understand the limits (from Bonner & Walker, University
of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center):
- You may touch your own private parts when you're by
yourself. Masturbation is a normal behavior in children.
If your child is touching himself frequently and in
public places, tell your child that it is okay to touch
himself, but do he should do it in a private place such
as his bedroom or the bathroom.
- You may not touch other people's private parts. If your
child tries to touch a sibling or other people on the
genitals, it's important to let him know that genitals
are people's private places.
- You may not show your private parts to other people. If
your child pulls down her pants or exposes her genitals,
tell her it's not okay to show her private parts to
other people.
- You may not let other people touch your private parts.
Tell your child that he shouldn't allow others to touch
his or her private parts.
All of the above behaviors can be quite normal in a child's
development. However, it is important to be consistent in
setting these limits for your child. If your child
continues to demonstrate sexual behaviors, even after being
reminded of these rules consistently, then you should
discuss your concerns with your child's pediatric care
provider.
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